Relationships are wonderful and terrible. For many, relationships are for transactions, but not for closeness. Even though loneliness seems to be so much a part of life, there is a deep longing for close relationships, yet there is an equally deep resistance to closeness. When the tension becomes too great, some seek help.
Therapeutic help comes in the form of relationship, while investigating early origins of relational learning and experience that proved relationship to be unavailable, untrustworthy, chaotic or dangerous. Adaptations adopted in childhood to negotiate relationships in these environments are repeated throughout life until they can be understood and experienced differently.
Therapy can help break the cycle of reusing structures that worked when young, but are ineffective in the present, by exploration, emotional awareness, understanding how these structures were effective, but no longer, and how to know and experience more effective thinking and behavior.