Good Reading

Good books are like being in relationship with someone with life experience and wisdom. The shortcoming is there is no dialogue or opportunity to ask what the author might have meant by what was said, yet it is relationship in that the author had an intent to convey something of importance he or she felt, processed, and thought enough about to communicate at an expense of time and effort. The author also risked exposing themselves to a world that is unfriendly and skeptical. But the risk is worth it if some receive and are given a perspective that advances the reader from a place of being stuck to another step forward.

The books I have included in this list are important contributions to areas of struggle for many people. None exhaust what needs to be said and none have the final word, but they do assist in the journey.

  • General on Growth:
    • Allender D., (2000). The Healing Path, Colorado: WaterBrook Press.
  • Attachment Theory:
    • Jonson S. & Whiffen V. E., (2003). Attachment process in couples and family therapy. New York: The Guilford Press.
    • Karen, R. (1994). Becoming attached: first relationships and how they shape our capacity to love. New York: Oxford University Press.
  • Pornography:
    • Carnes, P. (1989). Contrary to love. MN: Hazelden.
    • Carnes, P. (1992). Don't call it love. NY: Bantam Dell Pub. Group.
    • Carnes, P., et al. (2001). In the shadows of the net: breaking free of compulsive online sexual behavior. MN: Hazelden.
    • Schaumberg H. (1997). False intimacy. CO: NavPress
  • Marriage:
    • Gottman J. & Silver N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. NY: Crown.
    • Gottman J. & DeClaire J. (2001). The relationship cure. NY: Simon & Schuster.
    • Gottman J. , Gottman J. S. & DeClaire J. (2007). 10 Lessons to transform your marriage. NY: Three Rivers Press.
    • Schnarch D. (1997). Passionate marriage. NY: Norton
  • Children and Adolescents:
    • Huggins K. (1989). Parenting adolescents. CO: NavPress.
    • Allender D. (2003). How children raise parents. CO: Waterbrook Press.
  • Abuse:
    • Love P. (1991). The emotional incest syndrome. NY: Bantam.
    • Allender D. (1996). The wounded heart. CO: Navpress.
    • Allender & Longman (1992). Bold love. CO: NavPress.
    • Finkelhor D. (1984). Child sexual abuse, NY: Free Press.
    • Van Stone D. & Lutzer E. , Dorie (1981). The girl nobody loved. IL: Moody Pub.
    • Van Stone D. & Burdick S. (1990). No place to cry. IL: Moody Pub.
    • Evans P. (1996). The verbally abusive relationship. Adams Media Corp.
    • Sokoloff, N. (2005). Domestic Violence at the Margins. NJ: Rutgers University Press.
  • Suffering:
    • Sittser, J. L. (1995). A grace disguised. MN: Zondervan